About

Showing Christian men and women precisely how God’s promises are better than lust’s, while offering Gospel-powered strategies for holistic change.

How is this blog any different from most other Christian blogs on porn and sex?

  • It is not about quitting a porn addiction but killing all lust and replacing it with love.
  • The focus is not on describing how addiction works or how pornography damages our lives (which is good to know).
  • The strategies go beyond putting up safety nets and joining accountability groups (which are good things to do).
  • The strategies focus on things we can do to get to the root beliefs and thoughts behind lustful action.
  • The Theology of Sex is not about describing God’s plan for sexuality, but showing how marvelous it is.
  • The message of hope is not that God’s marvelous plan for our sexuality is ultimately found in marriage. Doing so generally leads to disillusioned married men.
  • The message of hope is that sex in marriage at its best is only a dim reflection of the pleasure of heaven awaiting those who believe in Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.

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Get started with these posts:

Four Reasons to Follow This Blog

Series: Little Known Truths About the Christian’s Body

When Killing Lust: Do These 3 Things

How Sexual Immorality is a (False) Religion

How Jesus Defeats the False Religion of Sexual Immorality

Categories

For the time being, every post on the blog will be about one of the following categories:

Gospel Strategies for Killing Lust

Theology of Sex

Theology of Change/Sanctification

Blog Background

I am a Refrigeration Technician for McDonald’s and I spend most of my lunches and drive time (which is a lot) studying and thinking about deep theological and philosophical questions. In particular, I have been studying the depths of lust and sex and marriage and heaven almost exclusively since July of 2011. In order for you to get an idea of where I am coming from theologically, I am highly influenced by Tim Keller and John Piper.

This blog is the lava of information that inevitably explodes from a volcano of studying and questioning and researching and praying. I believe the discussion in the Christian blogosphere regarding lust has thus far only scratched the surface of what the Bible has to say about it. I encourage you to subscribe to this blog to see what I mean as I seek to dig deeper than any discussion has dug up to now.

I post about once a week since I have a day job and a family. You can subscribe by e-mail, RSS, Twitter, or Facebook via the links on the top right of the page. My intent is to help men who struggle with lust, which is all men to some degree. However, I also would love feedback from women who also struggle or know men that do, which again is all women to some degree.

My Biography

I grew up in the San Fernando Valley, one of the suburbs of Los Angeles. I became a believer at a very young age and have always pursued obedience and faith in God. However, I also always felt a very strong pull toward a sexually immoral life, seeking my own pleasure despite knowing that it was against God’s design. I married young trying to merge my desire for sexual pleasure with my desire to please God, but it did not work. I still valued sexual pleasure more than God. Any difficulties in my marriage made me angry with him that his design was not working. This made it very easy to give into various temptations to lust.

In the summer of 2011, I decided to uproot this internal rebellion once and for all. So I began to pour hours of study into passages about sex. I had frequently run to these passages before when I was seeking repentance but for some reason I only would read them and did not study them or meditate on them. So I began to do just that. I also began to study teachings about heaven intensely because it bothered me that there was no marriage or sex in heaven.

The things I discovered in those passages about sex and heaven have completely changed my life. Of course, my heart is still prone to wander and I still fall, but the overall direction of my heart has radically been turned around. I want to share what I found with as many people as I can. Thus, this blog.

I am a husband and a father of a 4-year-old boy and 2-year-old girl. I fix air conditioners and refrigeration equipment for a franchise owner of McDonald’s in the San Fernando Valley.

I love analyzing movies and music to find hints of the Gospel in them. I also love playing guitar, singing, and songwriting, though I have had little time to do so lately.

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  • InCogNito

    I look forward to this blog on this particular subject with great anticipation, and especially hope.

    • Thank you! I look forward to your feedback on upcoming posts.