In order to kill lust you have to completely place your trust in God and hope only in him for true change.
But trusting in God does not mean you sit back and wait for him to do it; passivity does not require inactivity.
Occasionally I get confused about how to work diligently yet also trust in God every moment of my life. It seems when I am trusting God in my heart I get lazy with my hands; and when I am diligent with my hands my heart starts trusting myself instead of God.
I saw this tension most clearly when I was unemployed. I bounced between, on the one hand, working really hard to find work and trusting in my own efforts to get a job. And on the other hand, being at peace when waiting for calls and trusting in God when I couldn’t do anything else.
But this tension comes from a very small view of God’s involvement in this world and my life. Yes, God is the one working between the time I submit my resume and the time I get a call. But he is also the one who intricately designed the DNA and life experiences of both the HR representative and me that led to an agreement to work together. He is the one who holds all of the molecules in my hands together as they type resumes and emails.
Trusting in God while you work diligently means constantly acknowledging the source of your ability to work. There is a secret dialogue deep in your heart every time you act. You either say “This act will be effective because I am knowledgable, skilled, wise, and intelligent,” or “This act will be effective because God made me and made the world I act in.”
That said, let’s look at the three interrelated actions* you need to constantly be doing in order to kill sexual lust in your heart: