Archives For Theology of Sex

theology of sex

Why is it that when you set out with every intention of obeying God you end up sinning horrifically? Maybe you have quit pornography or maybe you’re still buried in it. Maybe you have quit gossiping or maybe you’re still drunk by it. But everyone one of us puts down our bible ready to apply it and comes back to it the next day without having loved God with all our heart and his people as ourselves. (Or we don’t come back to our bible at all precisely because of our failures.)

Even the great Apostle Paul mourned this tendency in himself:

Continue Reading…


In the darkest times of my porn addiction and even in recent struggles with lust, one of the most disheartening things has been the weakness of my will.

[This post is part of a series about 6 aspects of the Gospel that overpower our desire to lust]

I could have an incredible experience of God’s grace through reading or praying or worshipping with the church. **Yet** if I faced a strong temptation to lust only minutes afterward I would give in with almost no resistance.

I am always amazed by how easily my heart can turn from being wrapped up in awe of the Gospel and in a split second be wrapped up with the idolatry of sexual pleasure. It is that fact that continually brings me to my knees to beg Jesus for the strength to live worthy of his grace toward me.

For that reason Paul’s next comparison between our current body and our resurrected body brings me great hope. He says our bodies are sown in weakness but raised in power. We are weak now but then we will be strong.

But what in particular is good news about being strong? Here are four aspects of our future strength that I find to be good news for those struggling with lust:
Continue Reading…


First, do we even need respect? Doesn’t Paul say if we have food and shelter then we should be content? Doesn’t that mean that everything else is just a want and not a need?

[This post is part of a series about 6 aspects of the Gospel that overpower our desire to lust]

What about psychological needs? Does the Bible really teach that we don’t need respect, love, and loyalty from the people around us? If a husband is not getting respect from his wife or a wife not getting love from her husband, does the Bible teach that they should just forego that need and do their part without expecting anything in return?

The popular way to define a need is anything necessary to live a healthy life. But I think that way of thinking about needs verses wants is based more on the theory of evolution than the teaching of Scripture.

Defining Needs and Wants

Continue Reading…


One of the most agonizing things about addiction to pornography is the separation of who you are from who you want to be; and who you are from who you ought to be.

It is the decay of personhood that is a result of the Fall. The corruption of body and soul with evil desires and godless thoughts.

In the previous post we looked at God’s promise to resurrect us with new and improved bodies. For the next four posts in the series we will look at the contrasts Paul brings up between our current bodies and our new bodies.

Continue Reading…


Did you know that our resurrected bodies will not only be perfected but also drastically improved? This is not a theory or guess but a revealed, rock-solid, biblical truth.

[This post is part of a series about 6 aspects of the Gospel that overpower our desire to lust]

In fact, it is a truth Paul thought should motivate the sex-crazed Corinthians to keep themselves pure. In our passage in 1 Corinthians, he only briefly alludes to the truth, but later in the same book he goes into great detail:

“What you sow does not come to life unless it dies. And what you sow is not the body that is to be, but a bare kernel, perhaps of wheat or of some other grain. But God gives it a body as he has chosen, and to each kind of seed its own body. For not all flesh is the same, but there is one kind for humans, another for animals, another for birds, and another for fish. There are heavenly bodies and earthly bodies, but the glory of the heavenly is of one kind, and the glory of the earthly is of another. There is one glory of the sun, and another glory of the moon, and another glory of the stars; for star differs from star in glory. So it is with the resurrection of the dead” (1 Corinthians 15:36-42).

How does this passage motivate anyone to stay sexually pure? In the previous post we saw that Paul is pleading with us like sons who will miss out on great things if we continue to disobey. What is it about resurrected bodies that we will miss out on?

Here are three things sexual idolaters will miss out on:

Continue Reading…


For years I read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 as a long guilt trip from Paul as to why it is bad to sleep with prostitutes (or look at pornography). He says things like “Do you not know?” And “Never!” as if he is really saying, “You idiots!”

Not too long ago I realized that his tone is actually quite different. While it is true that he thinks the Corinthians are being foolish, his tone is that of a pleading father who sees such good things his son is missing out on because of foolish disobedience. It is as if he is saying, “Come on! Can’t you see what you are missing?”

For this series we will look at the six things in this passage that Paul says are incredible blessings of the Gospel. These are things we have in Christ or we are in Him or we will have in Him. But we could miss out on them if we indulge in the idolatry of sexual pleasure.

Here they are, followed by the section of the passage where you can find them:
Continue Reading…

Merry Christmas! I will be taking a break from the blog possibly until the new year. Unless I get otherwise inspired.

Be sure to return the first week of 2013! I will be starting a new series about the specific aspects of the Gospel that kill lust.

I hope you all have a wonderful holiday!

Grace and peace,


During the first week of 2013 I am starting my next blog series: “Specific Aspects of the Gospel That Kill Lust.” This has been the focus of my personal bible study time for over a year. It is at the heart of my goal with this blog.

For the next few weeks Continue Reading…

This is the final post for the body series. Below are the eight little known truths restated and one application point for each that you can start doing today (click the titles to read the post for each truth in a new page/tab so you can stay on this one as a reference):
Continue Reading…


[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

“The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights…. For… the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does…. You were bought with a price; do not become bondservants of men” (1 Corinthians 7:3-4, 23).

If you look at this passage in context, you’ll notice I took out the wife’s commands. I did this because we men tend to focus on the fact that our wives are supposed to give us our conjugal rights. We generally don’t give much thought to what we are called to do.

I think this is primarily because it is found in the context of marital intimacy. Typically husbands have little trouble being ready for sex. But I want to look at this passage a little differently.

This passage does not mean that when it comes to your sex life she is the head and in every other area you are the head. Rather, Paul builds his case on a universal, unqualified statement: “the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”

In the context he is specifically addressing marital intimacy, but he draws from a universal principle to make his specific point. What I want to do is look at what the universal principle means.

Continue Reading…