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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

The following post is frank about marital intimacy, but not graphic. Read at your own discretion.

The body is for the Lord not for sexual immorality. However, he clearly designed our bodies to have sex. So how do we have sex to the glory of God? How is our body for the Lord even while engaging in intimate relations with the one we love?

First, you need to confine sex to marriage. But our bodies being for the Lord doesn’t just mean that we confine sex to marriage.

It also means we receive marital sex as an appetizer for heavenly pleasure with thankfulness. As Christians fighting against pornography and lust, we must never give the impression that sex within marriage is the main course. Doing so will result in disillusioned married men and women.

That said, sex within marriage is indeed one of the most powerful teasers for the future heavenly pleasures awaiting followers of Christ. But similar to the Old Testament temple and sacrificial system, it foreshadows the future promise by way of symbolization.

In a previous post, we looked at some of these symbols. Here are four more:

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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

The idea that “your body is for the Lord” is not a little known truth.

If you’ve been a Christian for nearly any length of time, you’ve heard that you belong to him. You’ve been told that whether you eat or drink, do everything for the glory of God (1 Cor. 10:31). You’ve been told that you were made in his image and are a temple of his Spirit. You know you are to be his hands and feet in this world.

But there’s at least two ways that aspects of this truth are not well known in the Christian community:

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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

Knowing where the battle truly lies makes all the difference. In the last post we discovered that the Christian battle is not new soul vs. old body, but new nature vs. old nature.

In this post we will look at how that understanding shapes our approach to killing lust in our hearts. Colossians 3:1-17 is possibly the best summary of the battle. I highly encourage you to read it sometime this week through this new lens of sin nature vs. Spiritual nature.

Understanding the battle this way shows you that it is a holistic inner conflict where your body and soul together are torn between submitting to your old sin nature or your new Spiritual nature.

Your sin nature has been dethroned. But it is very manipulative and can often convince you to still obey it.

Here is how Colossians 3:1-17 breaks down the battle:

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Your Body is Not the Enemy

November 26, 2012 — 1 Comment


[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

I have heard it countless times over the years. Well meaning Christians encourage someone struggling with sin by saying something like, “You have a new spirit that is being sanctified, but your body is dead because of sin. Your new spirit has to go to war against your old dead body.”

This certainly feels true in times of temptation. Your mind and maybe your heart wants to obey God but your body’s urges pull you in to sin against your will. It seems like the battle is between your new spirit in Christ and your old body in sin.

The closest verse I can think of that would support this belief is Romans 8:10: “But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the Spirit is life because of righteousness.”

This seems like an open and shut case in favor of the body-is-the-enemy position. But there are three important reasons why this passage is actually making the opposite argument:

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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

Yesterday and the day before we looked at two little known theological truths about the Christian’s body. Here is the third truth:

Everything God does is for the ultimate good of your body

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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

I am in no way a scholar so the following post is my best efforts at collecting all I’ve studied about the relationship of the body to the soul. But what I have found has been extremely paradigm shifting for me. I hope it helps you too.

What is the relationship of the body to the soul?

Here are what seem to me to be the most popular options:

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[This post is part of a series covering eight little known theological truths about the Christian’s body]

When battling lust it can feel like it is your body that is warring against you.

There are countless times in my battle against lust where no matter where I direct my thinking, my body’s urges seem to make it virtually impossible to turn away from lust. I know that I am a new creation, but so many times it doesn’t feel like it at all. I know that God always provides a way out of temptation but it seems like my body always blocks the exit. Over the last year I have been seeking answers to a lot of questions about my body:

What does it mean to have a body? What happens to my body when we become believers in Christ? Does God care about my body or just my soul? Is my body being sanctified or just my soul? If our body is going to be resurrected then why work so hard to take care of it now?

The following is the first of several things I discovered from my biblical studies about a believer’s body that I never really heard growing up in the church (we’ll cover the others in the days ahead):

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The battle for your allegiance is not between two equal opponents.

We know in our minds that God is superior but we often believe in our hearts that it is Beauty who is most worthy of our love.

In yesterday’s post, we saw that in the lusting man’s viewpoint God’s heaven sounds more like hell than it does heaven. In the competing religion of sexual immorality, there is the promise of eternal sexual pleasure. Whereas in God’s heaven, Jesus says there will be no marriage and thus no sex.

Does following Christ really mean settling for a lesser heaven? We know that the heaven of sexual immorality doesn’t actually exist, but if it did, wouldn’t it be better?

The following are four ways that Jesus defeats the false religion of sexual immorality:

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We tend to think of lust and pornography and sex outside of marriage more as destructive habits than spiritual sins.

To be sure, much of what makes sexual sin worse than other sins is the amount of earthly damage it causes. By that I mean the human relationships that are effected by sexual sin. God is very angry when his children hurt each other. Sexual sin hurts a lot of people very deeply.

However, I think we have forgotten that it also directly hurts God because it is the result of worshipping another god. It is always spiritual adultery before it is sexual adultery.

Here are four ways that sexual immorality is a false religion and not merely harmful behavior.
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Sexual immorality is anything you do in order to get any kind of sexual pleasure from someone who is not your spouse.

By far the most common way men commit sexual immorality today is by simply enjoying the beauty of a woman who is not his spouse for the sake of comfort, exhilaration, or reward.

Or in other words, the most common form is lust. In marriage, God designed the beauty of a wife to be incredibly beneficial to her husband. Intimate love making is not only physically pleasing but also profoundly comforting, exhilarating, and rewarding. Even just coming home after a long day and beholding his wife’s form can do wonders for comforting a husband. But the comfort is not only designed to be from her beauty but also from their life long commitment to love each other. She is his. And he is hers. And no one else’s.

Why does God care so much about us finding pleasure in the right ways? If we decide to settle for a shallower pleasure why does that make him so angry? Aren’t we only hurting ourselves? Keep reading…

We don’t say it’s sexually unethical but rather immoral because it vandalizes God’s image in creation

Imagine you are famous and you have this one photo circulating the web and magazines and what not that just makes you look absolutely incredible. It portrays your personality perfectly. You look strong but kind. Smart but humble. Funny but sensitive. Loyal.

Now imagine that someone photoshops the image to make you look angry, arrogant, and foolish and adds the caption, “The real photo before it was photoshopped.” Now people think that is who you really are. Now everywhere you go people either laugh or glare at you. How does that make you feel?

See, God made man and woman in his image. Together, especially in marriage, we see his personality. We are supposed to reflect who he is to the world. But when we go against his design it communicates something very untrue about him. When we are faithless it makes him look faithless. When we use others for our own good without their regard it looks like he is someone who does the same.

Lust communicates grievous untruths about who God is and frankly, that pisses him off. So much so that he demands an eternal punishment for doing it. Don’t miss that. We hear it a lot. But think about it. He demands an eternal punishment for lust.

Remember, brothers, the Eternal Son endured that punishment for you. Now live free from lust. Free from sexual immorality.